It is one long lesson!

It's been a long hard journey that has not been without a lot of lessons. I think the biggest lesson I've had is the importance of gratitude, humility and patience with myself! There's been so many things I've had to learn how to do again or I had to learn how to do them differently! Also there were some things I learned I couldn't do at all. It also has been a lesson in learning how to be appreciative of the people who want to help me. This includes being willing to ask for help!   I know that I have a lways been very independent. I would take care of myself very often. This was a common thing for me. Learning how to accept help has been humbling in many ways. I'm also very glad to have had the opportunity to learn that. I have had to learn how to be patient with myself. It Has been difficult not get critical of myself. I have a high expectations of myself and I place high demands on myself. I've had to learn a lot of things but I've had a lot of good teachers leading by example. Not only the people at The Center, but also the people that are friends of mine  They've all taught me how to accept help and not be so critical of myself. It has been a process to be grateful for what I can do. I have learned to realize that even though I might not always do what I think I should, I'm doing a whole lot more than I was thinking it was possible. I guess the whole thing is to learn how to not push myself quite so hard, to be patient, to be grateful for what I can do, and to not be critical of what I can't do. It is really a case of being a process rather than an event. I will continue to gain strength and get new vailabilities. I will have all kinds of set backs as well as all kinds of successes. Most importantly, I will continue with gratitude, humility, and patience with myself. 

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